As my maternity leave flies by and work gets horrifically close, I’ve been thinking about the parallels between my job and having a baby. I think being a therapist prepared me for parenthood. I thought I’d miss work but I haven’t at all. I arranged only to take 10 months off, thinking I’d be keen…
Recently, I’ve been thinking a lot about Millennium New Year’s Eve. It felt like a pivotal moment in my life. It’s been on my mind partly because it was New Year’s Eve the other week, and partly because things with Andrew have brought up similar feelings. I’ll do a Retro Dater Analysis post with my…
One of the first blog posts I wrote was about a horrible experience I had, after sleeping with a guy. Daniel was the first guy I met after becoming single. He had a lot of mental health problems. The night we slept together was a bit of a rollercoaster, with him being really nice to…
I’ve been going out with Andrew for a while now, and I thought I’d write about the good and bad points of shagging a detective. Pro: he knows all the laws On our third date, I said to him, “so, do you know, like, all the laws?” He said that, at least when he was…
I am absolutely livid. Last week, I had the lovely Sunday night with Andrew, when we got even closer, confirmed that we’re not seeing anyone else, and he told me about his health problem. Then, that Wednesday, he came round and we had an absolutely wonderful evening together. He had mentioned wanting a roast dinner on…
After my amazing, second date with Andrew, the World-weary Police Detective, I sent him frat-boy nonsense messages about masturbation and things, and he sent me messages like this: He makes me feel like I’m this really amazing woman. Our third date was arranged for that Wednesday. He suggested a picnic on Hampstead Heath, which I…
Last weekend I had my second date with the Musical Vegan. We had a good first date, but I had concerns about the fact he was moving away from London soon he was a vegan, and I’m a coeliac, so there’s very little we can both eat. I had suggested he come round to mine to…
I had a really good first date the other day, but I think there might be two logistical problems that stop anything getting off the ground. We met on OkCupid, and had been messaging each other for a few weeks before our date, because he’d been away visiting his family for Easter. I really liked…
I’m on holiday in Bucharest, in Romania, with 14 people. It’s Flatmate Joe’s 30th birthday. I absolutely love Bucharest. I love going to different European cities, and this one is fabulous, and it’s so great spending time with Joe again. I feel really happy. I’ve been thinking about happiness a lot recently, especially since I…
A few months ago, when I was struggling to get over the Whippersnapper, I downloaded a self-help app called Mend. It’s designed to help people get over breakups. As a therapist, I half-expected I’d pour scorn over it and focus on how I could have designed it better, but actually, it was bloody good. One…
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