Why didn’t I say something?

A couple of days ago, I saw the Great Scot had posted on Facebook, for the first time in over a year. He had shared a post about the lead singer of the band Frightened Rabbit, who was missing. Fuck. I thought. I googled Frightened Rabbit, a Scottish band I quite like, and the Great…

Dropping the struggle with contradiction

A few months ago, when I was struggling to get over the Whippersnapper, I downloaded a self-help app called Mend. It’s designed to help people get over breakups. As a therapist, I half-expected I’d pour scorn over it and focus on how I could have designed it better, but actually, it was bloody good. One…

Whatever happened to…

Here are some updates – guys I wrote about who have come back out of the woodwork, or ones where I realised I never  said how it ended. James This is the guy I was friends with in 2011. We slept together a few times and I think he quite liked me, but I had…

The legacy of exes

Have you ever had a boyfriend or girlfriend, and felt like their ex cast a shadow over your relationship? It can feel like you’re living with a ghost. Even if they don’t want to get back together, the ex can still feel like an unbeatable rival. I’ve got two stories about this. The first was…

Breakup apps

This week, I came across something I didn’t know existed: Breakup Apps – self-help apps to guide you through a breakup. The one I stumbled across was ‘Mend‘, mentioned in this post in Jill’s Adventures in Dating. I tried to find out more about Mend, and came across ‘Breakup Boss‘ as well. It feels particularly relevant to me,…

Gross misconduct. The end.

OK. Forget what I said a few days ago. Everything’s changed. I am SO OVER Whippersnapper. I never want to see or hear from him ever again. This is the closest I’ve come to hating someone. I’m actually having fantasies about hurting him physically, which I’ve never had about anyone before. I’m not saying I…