Recently, I met up with my friend, Ruth, for the first time in ages. Ruth is a legend – a bit unreliable but infinitely supportive and compassionate, and hilarious. We met when I was her supervisor, several years ago. Recently, she said “being friends with you is like the bit in the Wizard of Oz,…
A few weeks ago, it was my ex-boyfriend’s birthday – the one who died. I went back to his city, where I used to live with him. I went to see his Mum in the morning. She had suggested we feed the squirrels in the park. I thought this was a good suggestion, as he…
This week in London, there was a devastating fire in a block of flats, killing many people. It has caused some political unrest in the city, so it’s all over the news and social media. A few friends texted to check I’m OK, because they knew it would make me think of the house fire…
I’ve been terribly unhappy for a few days. I was fine one day, then the next I felt really bad. I’m OK when I’m with other people, but on my own, I can’t stop crying. It’s hard to get out of bed. I’ve had two epiphanies and one bit of bad news. Bad News On…
These are the edited highlights of my 7th, 8th and 9th dates with Whippersnapper. 7th Date This was just over a week after our 6th date. (My ex-boyfriend moving back in for that one week went OK. Quite early on, I was ready for it to be over, but it was less scary and more…
9th February 2012 was the worst day of my life. It was about 8:30 in the morning. I had just got out of the shower. I had a towel around me. It was a bit cold in my flat, so I had got into the habit of putting my dressing gown on over the towel,…
This week it would’ve been my ex-boyfriend’s birthday. As you can see by my use of ‘would’ve’, he’s no longer with us – he died in a fire in 2012. I thought I would write a post about the challenges and dilemmas of having a late ex-partner in the 2010s – what it’s like to be…
Dater Analysis 