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Retro Dater Analysis

Here I post ancient diary entries, old emails and letters I wrote many, many years ago

19th August 2003: “I’ve just been looking through my stuff for university, and it’s very scary!”

This is an excerpt from my diary, when I was 19. It was coming towards the end of my year out, and I had been working in a nursing home for elderly people all year. I had just passed my driving test. It’s about 11:45pm and I’m lying on my bed, listening to Royksopp. I’ve…

August 19, 2019 in Retro Dater Analysis.

15th August 2002: “I got my A-level results today.”

This is an extract from my diary, when I was 18 and got my A-level results. I didn’t get any As. I had hoped that the university would still let me in because I’d done an extra A-level, but they didn’t. In the end, I re-applied in my year out and got into a better…

August 14, 2019 in Retro Dater Analysis.

1st January 2000: ‘I walked to the phone box anyway to see if anyone had left any coins in there’

A diary entry from when I was 15. Skim through the convoluted bit about who is spending the evening where. I’m starting the year a bit miserably. I’m still upset about what happened last night. I was meant to be spending the evening with Becky and James. Natalie and Louise were going to a party…

January 29, 2019 in Retro Dater Analysis.

20th November 2001: “I feel like an unwoman”

This is an extract from my diary, when I was 17. For a few months, every time I tried to lose my virginity and have sex with my boyfriend, it didn’t work because I had vaginismus – the anxiety made my vagina involuntarily clamp shut. “It was Rob’s and my 6 month anniversary yesterday. We…

November 23, 2018 in Anecdotes about my vagina, Retro Dater Analysis.

24th October 2001: “That was a can of worms I shouldn’t have opened.”

This is an extract from my diary, when I was 17. Rob was my boyfriend, and had been since May. I had had depression and low self esteem a bit earlier in my teens, and he had OCD and health anxiety. ‘I don’t know what to do. I don’t know whether to stay with Rob.…

October 25, 2018 in Retro Dater Analysis.

5th August 1997: “I cried as soon as I read it.”

This is an entry from my diary, when I was 13. The 20-year-old guy I had been seeing wrote me a letter ending things. I wrote a meticulous account of saying goodbye to him.  “This morning I got a letter from Ben saying he thought we should split up. I cried as soon as I…

August 6, 2018 in Retro Dater Analysis.

19th July 1997: “We sat on his bed and talked about the more important stuff.”

From my diary, when I was 13. I had met Ben, who was 20, a few months earlier. He had written me a letter saying he could see me on Saturdays, when his Mum and also girlfriend were both at work. He probably changed his mind, because most Saturdays he would say he couldn’t see…

July 21, 2018 in Retro Dater Analysis.

7th July 2006: “We had a broken condom incident!”

This is an email I sent my friend, when she was travelling in Australia. It seems like I had quite a relaxed attitude to capital letters back then. I had been to Australia a year earlier, to visit my brother, who is a nurse in Sydney. In my final term at University, I had broken…

July 7, 2018 in Retro Dater Analysis.

4th July 1999: “The World hasn’t ended yet. I don’t think it will.”

My diary from when I was 15. I included entries from 4 days, from the 1st-4th July as I wasn’t sure it all made sense otherwise (as much as my teenage diaries ever made sense).  I saw Notting Hill in the cinema and also was scared because Nostradamus had predicted the world was going to…

July 4, 2018 in Retro Dater Analysis.

30th June 2000: “On a less erotic note, all my new fish have died.”

This is an extract from my diary when I was 16, on my last day of school and the Year 11 School Leavers’ disco (which nowadays would probably be called our ‘prom’).  I didn’t end up going because my boyfriend, known here as ‘the Alcoholic Twin’ was not allowed to go as he was too…

June 30, 2018 in Retro Dater Analysis.

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