I went clubbing recently, with my new Gal Pals, and I met a nice guy on the dance floor. These are the girls I met on a Facebook group for girls who like the same music as me. One is a teacher from France who seems vivacious and slightly crazy, and the other is a…
Recently I went on two dates in 24 hours. The first was on a Saturday night, with a Spanish physicist. We had a flurry of messages on OkCupid, which petered out after a few days. A week or two later, I remembered about him. We had messaged each other about our favourite English words, which…
This week I met a very young man indeed. I was on holiday with a big group of people – some I knew, some I didn’t. We were in the french Alps. There were 12 of us and the purpose of the holiday was mountain-biking, although I didn’t touch a bike for the whole trip.…
Until now, I’ve been pretty lucky with online dating. Not lucky enough to be in a happy relationship, and I do seem to attract trouble-makers, but I hadn’t come across many time-wasters, or been rejected that much. First, I went on Guardian Soulmates, in 2013, and ended up in a 3-year relationship with the first…
Yesterday, I felt the happiest I’ve felt in months. I was driving home from work, with my tunes up slightly too loud, singing along and I couldn’t stop smiling. The spell has broken. The sun has come out after months of rain and grey skies. I’m not in love with Whipperspawn anymore. (I renamed the…
I really thought I’d written my last post about Whippersnapper. The whole of WordPress probably breathed a collective sigh of relief when I blocked him – at long last I would stop talking about him. Alas, no. The plot thickens. The cornflour has been added, as my friend would say. So, I had blocked him.…
I was really mad that Whippersnapper ignored my message. After months of him sending me drunk messages about his problems, and me replying with lots of love and free therapy, I decided to send a message about mine, and he ignored it. That was on Saturday night. By Monday, I realised he wasn’t going to reply…
OK. Forget what I said a few days ago. Everything’s changed. I am SO OVER Whippersnapper. I never want to see or hear from him ever again. This is the closest I’ve come to hating someone. I’m actually having fantasies about hurting him physically, which I’ve never had about anyone before. I’m not saying I…
Recently, I’ve changed my dating app settings, so I’m looking for something completely different. First, I’ll explain why. Compared to other times I’ve been single, I’m hating this more because it feels lonelier. There are lots of good things about being single; one of my favourite things in life is going to a club and…
I keep writing this post and then scrapping it and starting over. This is because I keep completely changing my mind about what I think. The last thing with Whippersnapper was that I told him I still loved him. He said he felt the same but still couldn’t be with anyone because of his body…
While all the drama with Whippersnapper was unfolding, I made an effort to keep dating. I didn’t want to put all my eggs in WS’s basket, as it seemed quite likely to turn out to be just a drawing of a basket. Drawn on a whiteboard. The day after he said he loves me, I…
Whippersnapper and I tentatively confessed our love for each other, but agreed we still couldn’t do anything about it, because of his body image problems. I did wonder when I went to bed that night, if I’d get a drunk 3am text from him. At 2:59am, I got this message: “See tonight is a classic…
