I’ve been going out with Andrew for a while now, and I thought I’d write about the good and bad points of shagging a detective. Pro: he knows all the laws On our third date, I said to him, “so, do you know, like, all the laws?” He said that, at least when he was…
Last weekend Andrew and I had our first weekend away together. It was pretty amazing. I think it was the best weekend away with a boy that I’ve ever had. Some things that happened: He got conjunctivitis and we spent ages trying to buy conjunctivitis cream We had sex in a bunker on a cliff…
Things are going well with Andrew. I love him. It’s really great dating someone in your thirties. We’ve learnt from our past relationships, we know what we want, and we can be honest about it. We’re mature enough to be open and straightforward about our feelings, without playing games. It’s great. But there’s no fucking…
This is an extract from my diary, when I was 17. Rob was my boyfriend, and had been since May. I had had depression and low self esteem a bit earlier in my teens, and he had OCD and health anxiety. ‘I don’t know what to do. I don’t know whether to stay with Rob.…
It’s been a shit week. My friend Faith’s Dad died, and it was his funeral this week. I feel so sorry for her, she’s going through an awful time at the moment. I went back to my home town for the funeral, and stayed with my older brother, as he also lives there. I still…
There are some things I thought were important in potential boyfriend, but now I’ve realised they aren’t. Or at least that it’s more complicated than that. I thought it was a deal-breaker that we had the same taste in music. I also thought it was crucial that we had the same taste in TV. I…
The last few weeks have been an emotional… not rollercoaster, that seems too strong. It hasn’t been that bad. But it’s been an emotional teacups ride. I had the birthday of my dead ex-boyfriend, and I got the contraceptive implant, which was a slight ordeal. Plus, there has trouble in paradise with Andrew, and now…
Andrew and I are having the most amazing sex. I think it’s the best sex I’ve ever had, but I do always think that, unless it’s clearly terrible. I think a lot of the qualities that make sex good are so abstract and intangible, it’s hard to compare really good sex I had yesterday with…
The last week or so, I’ve been a bit of a shambles. I had annual leave last week, which was supposed to stop me feeling so burnt out at work. I love my job, but lots of my colleagues and I are feeling like we’re cracking under the pressure in the NHS. We spend all…
Thank you for all your advice after my last post. After this post, I’m going to try and go back to what I do best, and talk about a) Psychology b) my vagina. My feelings for Andrew are deepening. It feels like standing up straight on the edge of a skyscraper. The world looks so…
I can’t work out if I’m being unreasonable and I need the advice of my sage followers. I’ve recently written about my frustrations with Andrew. He can be a bit crap at keeping in touch and is a workaholic. He isn’t used to being in a relationship and considering someone else when making decisions. Obviously…
Last week, I was hopping mad because Andrew was being rubbish. He’s generally above average at things like arranging dates (at least 80% of the time, it’s him, not me, that says “when shall we see each other next?”) not cancelling (we’ve had 20 dates and he’s never cancelled. When he’s had to work late,…
I am absolutely livid. Last week, I had the lovely Sunday night with Andrew, when we got even closer, confirmed that we’re not seeing anyone else, and he told me about his health problem. Then, that Wednesday, he came round and we had an absolutely wonderful evening together. He had mentioned wanting a roast dinner on…
Yesterday, I saw Andrew for the first time in over a week. I’d been away in Cornwall, having a relaxing time liaising with each of the Emergency Services. And then, as I was travelling east, on my way back to London, he was travelling west, to a stag weekend. We hadn’t finalised whether we were…
