I’m happy. (I think.)

I’m on holiday in Bucharest, in Romania, with 14 people. It’s Flatmate Joe’s 30th birthday. I absolutely love Bucharest. I love going to different European cities, and this one is fabulous, and it’s so great spending time with Joe again. I feel really happy. I’ve been thinking about happiness a lot recently, especially since I…

Dropping the struggle with contradiction

A few months ago, when I was struggling to get over the Whippersnapper, I downloaded a self-help app called Mend. It’s designed to help people get over breakups. As a therapist, I half-expected I’d pour scorn over it and focus on how I could have designed it better, but actually, it was bloody good. One…

Out of the loop

Just a quick post to say I still have no internet (Virgin Media will getting a very strongly worded email from me!). So I’ve written less, and been less able to read other people’s posts! Obviously I can use my phone but I keep using up all my data and find it easier to write…

A sex seance

A ‘wank seance’ – when masturbating, accidentally summoning up the image of a dead relative. Then, not being able to dismiss the image of them looking on, disapprovingly, at what you’re doing. A work friend introduced me to that term, and I found it funny. However, last week, I experienced something even worse. Last Saturday…